As you take on those helpful tips about how you can make yourself better in bed, you should also look at the flip side of this debate. There are things you can do in the bedroom that women generally don’t like.
Aaron Marino – creator of IAmAlphaM – went on a fact-finding mission. He interviewed a couple of ladies asking them what men do during sex that they find repulsive.
He came up with a few pointers that you should pay attention to. If you are guilty of a few of these common pet peeves, you need to do something about it.
1. Not Taking Control
If you are a man, you are predisposed to always be in control of the interactions you have with the opposite sex. For example, how you handle your dates will be a significant factor in how the relationship pans out.
It is embedded in nature that the man takes the lead. It also applies to sex. You should dictate the tempo of the interaction – but of course, you shouldn’t ignore your partner’s preferences because she is a part of it as much as you are.
Most men let the women take control of the situation. While it works in the short term under some circumstances, it generally backfires if done all the time.
Women crave for a strong man who will take charge. If you have been half-arsing your way through; allowing your girlfriends to control the interaction, they do not love it as much as you think they are.
2. Finishing Up Too Fast (Premature Ejaculation)
Women find it hard to have their sexual needs met when their partner “fires too quickly.” It is okay to have a bad day in the office mainly when you are over excited; nevertheless, make it a habit of staying the course a bit longer.
To put it into perspective; imagine agreeing with your girlfriend to give each other a massage when you both desperately want it. You both then establish that she will go first and receive her massage and then when she is fully relaxed, she is to return the favor.
How would it feel if, once you give her a gentle massage, she declines to return the favor? You would feel cheated, right? That is how she feels when you prematurely ejaculate most of the time.
Train yourself to last longer in bed if you have this problem. It will be better for both of you.
3. Bad Kissing Technique
Kissing is a big part of foreplay. Some of us don’t pay attention to or care less about being a half-decent kisser.
Women take this stuff relatively more seriously than we do, generally. If you suck at kissing and tongue her, she will not enjoy herself as much.
Of course, this is not a deal breaker, and you can always make up for it by being terrific in other departments. However, you should try to improve on that to be a better lover.
4. Erectile Dysfunction
It happens to us at least once at some point in our lives. If your woman were already primed for sex, she would feel let down when your penis fails when it matters most.
You can always satisfy her other ways, but most women, if candid enough, will acknowledge that they would give up all other means of satisfaction for proper penile penetration.
Don’t beat yourself up for not getting it up for her because it’s not your fault. There will be underlying problems causing it, and you should look into them.
5. Ignoring Her Needs/ Not Listening To Her
This one ties along with the point I made earlier about taking the lead. If you are so obsessed with having things your way, your arrogance may get in the way of giving your partner what she wants from the sex.
Even as you take charge of the sex, pay attention to her desires, and even fetishes. Balance that with your wants and come up with a system that leaves both of you satisfied. The satisfaction should go both ways, ALWAYS.
6. Lack of Confidence
Women are heavily turned off by a man who does not show confidence. A guy who neither expresses his desires nor drives the interaction forward always gets dumped by the high-value women.
We all harbor insecurities. The problem comes when we let these insecurities dictate our behavior thus making the interaction very awkward. Women will pick up on this and feel very unattracted to you. In most cases, low confidence levels cause Erectile Dysfunction.
If you are not feeling confident in yourself, you can at least fake it until it comes to you naturally.
7. Bad Body Odor
Foul body odor is a big turn off. It goes both ways. If you are about to have sex with a girl who stinks, you will loathe the whole experience.
Going by the same standards, if you haven’t showered, changed your boxers, and brushed your teeth for more than one day, there will be a noticeable stench. She won’t love the sex no matter how good you are in the sack if she has to hold her breath every time she kisses you or goes down on you.