Men's Guide to Sex Lubes
Lubricants are synonymous with sex toys because if you are using a male masturbator or almost any other sex toy for that matter, you are going to have to use lube.
And for that reason, you should invest in reading this guide because you do not want to choose the wrong lube that will do damage to your sex toy, or lube that will damage your penis.
So, what should you look for in a lubricant?
- It should be easy to clean off.
- It should not require you to reapply it frequently.
- It should not damage the material of your sex toy.
- It should not cause you any penis harm or injury.
Although this guide is focused more on lubes for sex toys, a majority of them can also be used for classic hand masturbation and anal sex with a condom.
IMPORTANT: Although you will see this point repeated in the article, we cannot stress enough how you should make a distinction between the lubes you use SOLO (for masturbation and with a sex toy), and the lubes you use with a partner for anal and vaginal sex.
There are lubes that are okay for “solo use” that you should never use with a partner because the rectum and the vagina have softer tissues and are, therefore, more delicate.
4 Types of Sex Lubes
Although different lube manufacturers may have variations in the ingredients, they put in their products, lube all generally fall into four main categories:
Water-Based Lubricants 💦
Water-based lubes are the most popular because they are inexpensive (since they are mostly made of water), and they are safe for your sex toy.
The majority of sex toy manufacturers will recommend that you use water-based lubes with their products.
They also mimic the natural lubrication of the vagina, whose water content is quite high too. And for that reason, most water-based lubes are safe for vaginal wall and the anal tissue.
The only downside of water-based lubes is that you need to reapply lube frequently because they evaporate relatively fast compared to other lube types. They can also get tacky, and the remedy for that is to splash some water on the dry lube and it will male it good again (try it).
Note: Some manufacturers sometimes add questionable ingredients to their products to save money because healthy, natural additives can be quite expensive.
Silicone-Based Lubricants 🧴
Silicone-based lubes, when compared to water-based ones, have some advantages and disadvantages. For example, they do not evaporate, thus eliminating the need to reapply them frequently.
They also don’t wash off quickly, which is both good and bad. Good because you can have sex while taking a shower with your girl and bad because cleaning them off can be a bit of a challenge.
Another major downside is that if you want to use them with a silicone sex toy is that they will destroy the sex toy. It’s no surprise that many sex toys are not compatible with silicone-based lubes (and most sex toy manufacturers will tell you to stay away from silicone-based lubes).
Oil-based lubricants 🛢️
Oil-based lubricants combine some of the best qualities of water-based and silicone lubes. For example, they are great on your skin like water-based ones while they don’t need frequent reapplication like silicone-based ones.
The major downside is that they don’t go well with latex condoms, especially those made of polyurethane. And to avoid the risk of breakages, if you are going to add lubrication to your condom, stay away from oil-based lubes.
With that said, they are compatible with a majority of men’s sex toys.
Hybrid lubricants ☄️
Hybrids are just mixtures of the above-listed lubricants. The most common combination is water + silicone because it brings the best of both worlds: they last long and don’t need to be reapplied frequently; they feel quite natural, like water-based lubricants.
They are safe on the skin and soft tissues and are also easy to clean up once you are done using them.
However, they are probably not the best to use with your sex toy because of the silicone element, no matter how small. It may take longer for the tear and wear to show, but it’s better not to risk it.
Household substances you can use as makeshift Lubes 🧼
A special mention goes out to household substances that aren’t marketed as lubes, but that can be used as lubes.
Before we go any further, AVOID soaps and shower gels even in the shower because they can cause a burning sensation if they get into contact with soft tissues (the urethra, the anus, and your girl’s vagina).
Also, avoid sugar-infused substances because they get sticky and make for bad lube anyways. Stay away from fish oil and butter even you don’t mind the smell!
Lubricants that are okay for sex with a PARTNER 💏
Coconut oil, aloe gel, and shea butter are acceptable when having vaginal and anal sex. Aloe vera is particularly useful because it nourishes your body tissue.
But you can’t know what other substances you have in the gel tube, so we recommend you to stay away from that and stick to trusted lubes made by trusted companies.
Household lubricants you can use SOLO 💁♂️
Some men use Vaseline and lube with petroleum ingredients and water-based gels (we do not recommend it).
These substances irritate the softer tissues of the anus and the vagina, so even if you use them yourself, never use them during sex.
On top of that, they can easily be absorbed into the bloodstream, which is undesirable, and they can make your partner more susceptible to infections.
For example, they can tamper with the bacterial composition inside her vagina, making her more susceptible to yeast infections or cause irritations and inflammations that make her more susceptible to STIs.
Frequently Asked Questions:
We would advise you to avoid oil-based lubes because they will give you a hard time when cleaning your toy. You may be forced to use special cleaners that add to your costs and may damage your device.
Silicone-based lubes are also a NO for a majority of sex toys. Although they can be cleaned off with warm water and mild soap, they can damage your sex toy.
If your sex toy is made of a silicone-material (and most of the soft ones like Fleshlights are), your lube will react with the sex toy and damage it.
That being said, some toys work well with these lubes, so you should check the manual for guidance.
Having ruled out the silicone and oil-based lubes (unless the sex toy manufacturer allows it), that leaves us with the water-based lubes.
These lubricants are great because they mimic the natural vaginal lubricant, and they work well with all materials that are used to make sex toys, and they are also easy to clean.
The problem with them is that you have to keep reactivating or topping up due to evaporation. However, some manufacturers add humectants (a substance that mitigates evaporation) to get around this problem.
We suggest that you have a small bottle of water next to you when you use water-based lubes and add drips of water each time you feel the lube drys, it will make it like new again, and it’s all 100% healthy.
Here are the lubes we like to use personally:
Some UPS about it short*
Astroglide Liquid is a water-based personal lubricant you can use when having an intimate sexual experience. It is manufactured by the company called Astroglide – which manufactures other kinds of lubricants.
It can supplement natural vaginal lubrication during sex and enhance your sexual experience by providing a silky smooth sensation. You can also use it to render heightened feelings by applying it at the tip of the condom.
Astroglide is also perfect for masturbation. It is the closest thing to a natural lubricant you can get.
Astroglide is a long-lasting lube that you can use on your sex toys and condoms because it does not weaken condoms or damage the smooth surface of a sex toy.
Since it is water based, it is water soluble and can be cleaned easily using water. You can also reactivate it with saliva or water if it dries up.
It is compatible with rubber, glass, soft plastic, hard plastic, and silicone sex toys.
Ingredients: Propylene Glycol, Purified Water, Methylparaben, Propylparaben, Glycerin, Polyquaternium 15
Made in the USA
ID Glide Water Lubricant
It is a water-based lubricant that you can use during your sexual interactions.
ID Glide is compatible with latex, polyurethane, and silicon products. To ascertain this, the manufacturer has tested it rigorously to ensure that it does not negatively affect either product.
It means that you can use it with your condoms without worrying about rupturing them. It also works well with most silicone sex toys.
A company known as ID Lubricants make ID Glide. Of all their products, it is the most popular lubricant.
It is the closest thing to the natural lubricant you can get.
Ingredients: Water, Sodium Benzoate, Glycerin, Tetrahydroxypropyl Methylparaben, Cellulose Gum, PEG-90M, Carbomer, Ethylenediamine, EDTA, Propylene Glycol, Potassium Sorbate
Made in the USA and it’s FDA approved.
If there is something you should take away from this guide is that the best thing to do is follow the instructions of the sex toy manufacturer. They know best how their sex toy will work with different types of lube, hence they will recommend the best lube to use with their product.
You need to be extra careful when using lube for sex because they may contain chemicals that can alter the pH levels of your partner’s vagina or rectum. Some even tamper with the integrity of the delicate soft tissue causing inflammation and greater susceptibility to infections.
You will have to be extra careful with household lubes because they may have ingredients that make them bad for lubrication, and in general, we do not recommend using household lubes.
The good thing is that you can buy lubricants online irrespective of your budget or requirements, and stay away from unknown companies selling cheap lubes, stick to the trusted brands.