My little brother has a girlfriend now, and I know that my parents won’t talk with him about sex because they act like sex does not exist.
Which leaves it up to me to give him some sex advice, and I already know what I’m about to tell him.
But before I do, I would really appreciate the male perspective on that as well, what tips would you give your little brother who’s about to have sex for the first time?
First of all, I love how you took on the responsibility of teaching your young brother about healthy sexuality. Siblings sometimes aren’t as candid about sex as you are. So Kudos for that.
With that out of the way, here are a few things I would tell my little brother about first time sex. I hope they help:
Everything Starts With Attraction
I’ve been into “pickup” and learning how to be successful with women for the past 10 years now, and I can tell you that there is a lot to learn about how to move from the first “Hello” to having sex with her.
On the other hand, it’s also very simple because this is a natural process that 99% of humanity has managed to do successfully without reading anything about pickup.
So, to find the sweet spot between overloading you with information and just throwing you into the water to figure it out by yourself, I decided to give you the most important points that you need to master if you want to be able to make random women have sex with you at a high success rate!
If you do want to get an OVERLOAD of the best information on the subject of pickup and getting laid, I would recommend learning from Tyler (Real Social Dynamics), he has a lot of amazing videos on his Youtube Channel.
But if you want to have the short version by me, here is something that you need to remember…
“People enjoy buying stuff, but nobody wants to be sold something.”
Likewise, women love sex but they hate it when you try to push it on them and they even hate to feel like you have this “hidden agenda” to have sex with them.
Women can feel it when all you try is to get them to have sex with you, that is because from the age of 16-18 women have to deal with guys that want to get them into bed, while they (the women) are looking for a relationship worthy guy, so…
Change your attitude
First, it’s very important to change the way you think (your mindset), that is where the inner game comes into the picture…
Most guys fail here because they make it clear to the girl that they approach (even if they try to hide it from here) that they want to have sex with her, and that turns the girl off in most cases.
Instead, detach yourself from the outcome and just try to have fun with the girl regardless if you will end up sleeping with her or not… That will the chances of you getting laid much more likely because women are attracted to guys that they enjoy being around and to guys that make them feel excited (it’s scientifically proven).
So the next time you approach a woman don’t think about getting laid, instead, focus on having and fun and exciting time with her regardless of the outcome!
If sex will come great, if not then it’s also ok because the more fun you’ll have with the woman the more good you’ll become at having fun with women and that’s how you increase your chances of getting laid in the long run.
The best tip I can give you on this subject is to take her to many different physical locations in a short span of time, take her to eat and then to have fun and exciting time somewhere else… This location skipping will make her feel that she trusts you because you’ve done a lot of things together and you will be much more likely to get her into your bed that same night if you do that.
Build up the sexual tension
Whether you are meeting a woman for the first time or seducing someone whom you have stayed with for 20 years the same rules apply when you want to get her to have sex with you. Women love that exciting feeling that comes with sexual tension.
Compared to men, women are more sensitive. They are usually distracted by simple things such as loud music, dirty bedsheets, and bright lights. It’s, therefore, very important to ensure that you create the right ambiance that will give them peace when the time comes for sex comes.
If you do this, it will be a lot easier to make them have sex with you. You could even go further by playing love songs and lighting romantic candles. While such efforts may seem desperate, to the woman they are very important. You also need to avoid sensitive words and communicate to them that you really care. This will go a long way in preparing them to have sex with you.
And that is how to get a woman to have sex with you. Although there are different techniques, the most important things are your attitude, approach and how you can make them feel special. If you do this, you will have sex with her within no time.
Are you about to lose your virginity?
Here is how to do it right…
The first tip would be to use a condom, here is how to use a condom right:
And other then that, you should expect to ejaculate really fast, so here is the video that will teach you how to last longer the first time you have sex:
Any Sex Positions Recommendations?
If you want to satisfy your woman there are only three sex positions that you must master. While men like to experiment with different sex positions thinking that they will please their women, this is not important.
Women also like to try out different positions thinking that they will get satisfied but this is should not be the case. As a man, there are only three sex positions that you need to know namely the missionary, the girl on top and the doggy style. ou can master these then you are good to go.
How to master them sex positions?
When having sex using the mission position you can change the position such that you have her legs over your shoulders. By doing this, you will provide different positions for you and your woman and you will enjoy even more. More so, when doing it the doggy style you can either stand or ensure that both of you are on your knees on the edge of the bed. More so if she is climbing on top there are many positions that you can assume to ensure that both of you enjoy having sex. You can spin her around to give you a good view of her ass.
Some more tips…
Take control – As a man, it’s important to take control of your woman and lead her during sex. Since she wants you to take control, make sure that you are sexually dominant. You will not only feel the pleasure but also make her feel very special.
Whisper bad things – Women usually feel good when you are whispering bad things into their ears. When you are talking dirty you are fucking both her mind and her body hence stimulating her even more. This is one of the best tricks that you can use to give her multiple orgasms.
Keep her guessing – While doing this, always keep her guessing. Avoid doing the same things over and over again. Make sure you vary these 3 different sex positions and anything you can think of to ensure that your encounter remains fresh and exciting.
Be naughty – It’s also very important to be a little naughty and even make it dirty if you want to be a great lover to your partner. While your woman might not say so, she probably wants to be with someone who is naughty.
How to be naughty from time to time
2. Spank her for being a bad girl or simply because you are passionate about her.
3. Make love to her in front of the mirror so that she can see what’s going on.
4. Use a small torch so that she is can see how you are thrashing.
Give her multiple orgasms – Every time you fuck your woman do not forget to give her multiple orgasms. There is no excuse for this. You must just make this happen if you want to have the best experience with your woman.
The most important thing to do is to use correct techniques, talk dirty, and take control as the leading partner.
Here is another tip I can give you that will make a much better love…
Rewire Your Sexual Beliefs to Become a Better Lover
What should you do for you to become a better lover for your woman?
When it comes to becoming a better lover, most men think about new sex positions and new techniques.
While this is fine to some extent they are just part of the things that you need to become a better lover.
The most important thing is to learn how to dominate and talk dirty while making love. Apart from this, you also need to look at your sexual beliefs as the first step towards being a better lover.
Analyzing your sexual beliefs
The foundation of your house is your sexual beliefs hence they must be strong and solid for you to enjoy your sex life. If you have bad beliefs, you will always be struggling to become a better lover. Unfortunately, most men have very bad beliefs that hinder them from becoming the best lovers. But what are some of the beliefs? Some of the worst sex beliefs include;
- It’s hard for women to have an orgasm.
- Size of the penis matters a lot when making love.
- If you last long you will satisfy your woman.
- Women are only good for sex.
- You can only give a woman orgasm through clitoris stimulation.
- Men must do things in exchange for sex.
- Women do not like sex.
If you have such believes you are likely to fail as a sexual partner. For instance, if you believe that the size is important, you will feel inadequate when it comes to satisfying your woman. You might also bore your woman with by lasting long with a belief that you are satisfying her. By believing these, you are trying to erect a house on a weak foundation. Contrary to the beliefs, it’s very easy to give your woman countless orgasms. If you believe this, you will find an easy way to ensure that this becomes reality.
Likewise, if you believe that it’s your work to give a woman pleasure you will do everything to make this a reality.
If you are honest enough and accept that you do not know everything you can always learn some of the best ways to satisfy your woman and make them feel good. Instead of being arrogant, you will be confident when handling a woman. You should also believe that as a man it’s your absolute role to always take control. This will eventually make it easy to satisfy your woman and enable her to get multiple orgasms. One of the best ways to boost a woman’s sex drive is to treat her well when you are out of the bedroom so that you can give her immense pleasure when you finally get inside.
Your sexual beliefs will help you shape the interactions that you have with women. Since some people feel bad about their beliefs they rarely talk about them. However, failing to talk about these beliefs is a big mistake since you will just be preventing yourself from becoming a great lover.
If you want to become a better lover it’s very important to rewire your beliefs and think positively about sex. By doing this, you will not only please your partner but you will also feel good.