Male Lubricants 101 – Men’s Guide to Sex Lubes

Sex Lubes​ For Men

Lubricants are synonymous with sex toys because if you are using a male masturbator or almost any other sex toy for that matter, you are going to have to use lube.

And for that reason, you should invest in reading this guide because you do not want to choose the wrong lube that will do damage to your sex toy, or lube that will damage your penis.

So, what should you look for in a lubricant?
It should be easy to clean off.
It should not require you to reapply it frequently.
It should not damage the material of your sex toy.
It should not cause you any penis harm or injury.

Although this guide is focused more on lubes for sex toys, a majority of them can also be used for classic hand masturbation and anal sex with a condom.

IMPORTANT: Although you will see this point repeated in the article, we cannot stress enough how you should make a distinction between the lubes you use SOLO (for masturbation and with a sex toy), and the lubes you use with a partner for anal and vaginal sex.

There are lubes that are okay for “solo use” that you should never use with a partner because the rectum and the vagina have softer tissues and are, therefore, more delicate.

4 Types of Sex Lubes
Although different lube manufacturers may have variations in the ingredients, they put in their products, lube all generally fall into four main categories:

Water-Based Lubricants 💦
Water-based lubes are the most popular because they are inexpensive (since they are mostly made of water), and they are safe for your sex toy.

The majority of sex toy manufacturers will recommend that you use water-based lubes with their products.

They also mimic the natural lubrication of the vagina, whose water content is quite high too. And for that reason, most water-based lubes are safe for vaginal wall and the anal tissue.

The only downside of water-based lubes is that you need to reapply lube frequently because they evaporate relatively fast compared to other lube types. They can also get tacky, and the remedy for that is to splash some water on the dry lube and it will male it good again (try it).

Note: Some manufacturers sometimes add questionable ingredients to their products to save money because healthy, natural additives can be quite expensive.

👍 Pros
They are cheap.
They feel more natural.
They are easy to clean.
👎 Cons
You need to reapply lube frequently.
Silicone-Based Lubricants 🧴
Silicone-based lubes, when compared to water-based ones, have some advantages and disadvantages. For example, they do not evaporate, thus eliminating the need to reapply them frequently.

They also don’t wash off quickly, which is both good and bad. Good because you can have sex while taking a shower with your girl and bad because cleaning them off can be a bit of a challenge.

Another major downside is that if you want to use them with a silicone sex toy is that they will destroy the sex toy. It’s no surprise that many sex toys are not compatible with silicone-based lubes (and most sex toy manufacturers will tell you to stay away from silicone-based lubes).

👍 Pros
They are very silky to touch.
Allow you to have sex in the water.
They last longer without reapplying.
👎 Cons
Require more effort to wash off.
Incompatible with silicone sex toys.
Oil-based lubricants 🛢️
Oil-based lubricants combine some of the best qualities of water-based and silicone lubes. For example, they are great on your skin like water-based ones while they don’t need frequent reapplication like silicone-based ones.

The major downside is that they don’t go well with latex condoms, especially those made of polyurethane. And to avoid the risk of breakages, if you are going to add lubrication to your condom, stay away from oil-based lubes.

With that said, they are compatible with a majority of men’s sex toys.

👍 Pros
They last long without reapplying.
Work well with silicone sex toys.
👎 Cons
They are the hardest to clean.
Increase chances of breakages in latex condoms.
Hybrid lubricants ☄️
Hybrids are just mixtures of the above-listed lubricants. The most common combination is water + silicone because it brings the best of both worlds: they last long and don’t need to be reapplied frequently; they feel quite natural, like water-based lubricants.

They are safe on the skin and soft tissues and are also easy to clean up once you are done using them.

However, they are probably not the best to use with your sex toy because of the silicone element, no matter how small. It may take longer for the tear and wear to show, but it’s better not to risk it.

Household substances you can use as makeshift Lubes 🧼
A special mention goes out to household substances that aren’t marketed as lubes, but that can be used as lubes.

Before we go any further, AVOID soaps and shower gels even in the shower because they can cause a burning sensation if they get into contact with soft tissues (the urethra, the anus, and your girl’s vagina).

Also, avoid sugar-infused substances because they get sticky and make for bad lube anyways. Stay away from fish oil and butter even you don’t mind the smell!

Lubricants that are okay for sex with a PARTNER 💏
Coconut oil, aloe gel, and shea butter are acceptable when having vaginal and anal sex. Aloe vera is particularly useful because it nourishes your body tissue.

But you can’t know what other substances you have in the gel tube, so we recommend you to stay away from that and stick to trusted lubes made by trusted companies.

Household lubricants you can use SOLO 💁‍♂️
Some men use Vaseline and lube with petroleum ingredients and water-based gels (we do not recommend it).

These substances irritate the softer tissues of the anus and the vagina, so even if you use them yourself, never use them during sex.

On top of that, they can easily be absorbed into the bloodstream, which is undesirable, and they can make your partner more susceptible to infections.

For example, they can tamper with the bacterial composition inside her vagina, making her more susceptible to yeast infections or cause irritations and inflammations that make her more susceptible to STIs.

Frequently Asked Questions:
Are oil-based lubes safe to use with sex toys?
We would advise you to avoid oil-based lubes because they will give you a hard time when cleaning your toy. You may be forced to use special cleaners that add to your costs and may damage your device.

Are silicone-based lubes safe to use with sex toys?
Silicone-based lubes are also a NO for a majority of sex toys. Although they can be cleaned off with warm water and mild soap, they can damage your sex toy.

If your sex toy is made of a silicone-material (and most of the soft ones like Fleshlights are), your lube will react with the sex toy and damage it.

That being said, some toys work well with these lubes, so you should check the manual for guidance.

Are water-based lubes safe to use with sex toys?
Having ruled out the silicone and oil-based lubes (unless the sex toy manufacturer allows it), that leaves us with the water-based lubes.

These lubricants are great because they mimic the natural vaginal lubricant, and they work well with all materials that are used to make sex toys, and they are also easy to clean.

The problem with them is that you have to keep reactivating or topping up due to evaporation. However, some manufacturers add humectants (a substance that mitigates evaporation) to get around this problem.

We suggest that you have a small bottle of water next to you when you use water-based lubes and add drips of water each time you feel the lube drys, it will make it like new again, and it’s all 100% healthy.

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